Coping With Change

Of all the traumatic experiences we are involved with, change is one of those with which it is most difficult to deal.

Whether it is of an emotional nature, spiritual, economic or physical, change involves establishing new patterns and breaking old ones.

An established routine or habit is comforting. It is familiar, and familiarity has a measure of security attached to it.

You feel secure because you know the territory.

A woodsman traipsing through a forest he has explored a hundred times, recognizing every rock and tree, is not that far removed from the business person engrossed in the day-to-day routine of life. Both enjoy a knowledge of the territory, of points of reference. Offer the woodsman an unfamiliar wood, a change, and we bring in that emotion attached to change - expectation.

Go to your level and visualize the change as a positive end result you would want.

Knowledge of the territory brings about a positive expectation; not knowing generally turns the expectation around and there is a certain trepidation, an uneasiness, a negative expectation. The mind conjures up all the things that could happen, bringing in the emotion of fear.

Accompanying fear are perhaps a loss of appetite, a queasiness in the stomach; food may be thrown up - all stimulated by the fight or flight mechanism as the mind readies the body to think quickly, fight hard, run fast.

Change, the unfamiliar, is indeed a frightening experience for the person. Whether it entails moving from one place to another, from one person to another, or from scrubbing pots and pans to picking beans.

Changing a way of thinking is no different when a person is aware that a better way exists. Secure in the beliefs of negative thinking and negative expectations, the negative thinker is protected (he thinks) from disappointment.

Expecting nothing, there is no disappointment as nothing happens.

Constantly expecting bad things, negative thinkers are not frustrated when they come about, and an “I knew it all the time” attitude is adopted.

An apparent attraction for the event is set up when the person does not realize he has the negative expectation, and the individual grows even more negative as the attraction continues growing stronger with the passage of time.

There are, of course, other types of change.

To the person who feels hopeless in his society and cut off from any part of what he would consider his share in the future, who on being offered a piece of new glorious tomorrow via, a mass movement of some kind - religious, revolutionary or nationalistic - change is quite another thing.

The attraction is that of a spectacular alteration in the quality of his life, an easy assimilation of a new and exciting doctrine: Join the mainstream of the movement and let the current take you to rebirth in a world of magnificence for everyone.

Power and confidence come from the movement of which he feels an integral part. The movement provides all substance. Soon this individual becomes caught in the force of the mass movement, unaware that he has totally given up responsibility of self, where true strength resides, and is aware of little else aside from the slogans and clichés the hierarchy of the movement allows him.

To instill the strength necessary to view change as growth, fruitful and challenging, it remains only to use mind techniques.

We view change as a positive experience, providing that the change is desired.

How do we do this?

Through the dynamic use of the Mirror of the Mind.

Go to your level and visualize the change as a positive end result you would want as if you were writing a play. View the aspects on your mental screen. Expect good things to take place.

Desired change then becomes a natural thing. Change then becomes something to look forward to, a positive expectation. Change becomes a belief that something good is about to happen.

Believe it to be and it will be.

Through mind techniques, you make the unfamiliar, familiar.

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